The 5 Words That Are Ruining Your Life
by Sopan Greene, M.A.
would you like to stop feeling like your life isn't good enough? (I realize
advertisers would go broke if this happened, but it's better for you!)
Imagine feeling joyful, whole and complete when you look in the mirror at
the end of the day.
What if I showed you how you're consciously
creating circumstances and beliefs everyday that give you results you
aren't happy with? Would you like to change it?
It's much simpler than
you think. It all begins with the words you choose to use. By changing what
you do and don't say, you'll start to create a much brighter future and
more peaceful present right now. I'm going to reveal the 5 words to you that
are bringing the most stress and frustration into your life. Over
time using these words ruins your life by creating a ton of unnecessary
The 5 words I invite you to eliminate from
your vocabulary right now are: want, need, can't, should and good enough
(okay, these are two words but they're together so lets pretend they're one
word for counting's sake. Thanks.).
If you just stopped using the word
'want' you would transform your life beyond belief. Do it for just one
day. You're going to be amazed at how many times an hour you (and everyone
else) says "I want...."
When you say "I want..." you instantly create
a feeling of lack within yourself. In reality you aren't lacking anything,
but when you want something you subconsciously believe that you have a hole
that can only be filled by getting what you want. This is the source of a
lot of addictions that cause people to consume too much food, sex, drugs,
alcohol, entertainment or whatever their personality has a hankerin'
"Need" is an extreme version of 'want.' You don't need anything
beyond food, water, shelter, clothing and love. Everything else is icing on
Along these lines it's helpful to remember that more than
half of the worlds' population goes to bed hungry every night. So if you
think you need a $3,000 HDTV, realize that you would like it but you don't
'Can't' is a limiting belief based on past experience. We
all know the past doesn't determine how we create the present or the future,
but a lot of us live like it's true. I invite you to re-examine what you
think you can't do.
I grew up being told that I couldn't do
mechanical things because my brother was labeled as the "mechanical one"
and I was labeled as the "studious" one. In my twenties I finally challenged
that belief because I had to in order to take care of myself. Guess what?
When I challenged that theory I discovered I could do a lot of things I never
tried because I was always told I wouldn't be able to do
Remember that you can be or do anything you commit to being or
doing. Some things will come more naturally to yoiu than others, but you have
the power to always be and do your best.
You've probably heard the
phrase "Stop shoulding all over yourself." 'Should' is a word we use to
exert power over ourselves and others through guilt. The funny thing is
that we tell ourselves what we 'should' do even more than we do it to other
If you catch yourself before you 'should' on yourself you'll
see that the 'should' that feels so important is just another belief that you
can choose to change.
Our minds can be our worst enemies. Our minds
are constantly making up stuff about whats good/bad, right/wrong,
important/irrelevant, etc. We are run by these beliefs, many of which are
arbitrary and constantly changing.
Think about an issue that tends to
worry you over and over. Why is this worry imprisoning you by creating a
ton of stress when a lot of other people aren't even aware of it?
all pick different issues and beat ourselves up about getting these issues
done, getting them right, takig care of them etc. They only feel important
to us because our minds made up that they're important issues. At the same
time we're totally unaware of other issues that other people are
constantly worrying about. It's silly and it also causes heart
The most problematic two words ever put together are 'good
enough.' What exactly is good enough? Nothing is. Is doesn't exist. It's a
subjective choice that's like a carrot on a stick that is impossible to
achieve. It moves farther away with every new accomplishment.
enough' is an American complex. It may exist in other countries (though the
Spanish language doesn't even have words to describe it), but in America
it's in the air we breathe.
Most Americans feel like they're 'not good
enough.' But if you ask them (or yourself), "What would be good enough?"
they're dumbfounded. They don't have an answer as to what signifies achieving
All they know is that they can find millions of
other people who appear (key word) to have things they don't have. They
think that if they had all these things, maybe they would be good enough
...until they see something else they don't have that they think
they want, need, can't get or should have.
I invite you to choose one
of these words a day to stop using. Catch yourself before the word
leaves your lips. If the word gets out simply correct yourself with a
powerful positive statement.
If you're about to say, "I want to go to the
movies," then instead simply say "I would like to go to the movies." or "I
choose to go to the movies." Now you're using words that create possibility
and express responsibility. Doesn't it feel better when you speak like
this? Yes, it does. It's because your speaking from a place of
It's your life. Choose to create it with words that reflect the
responsible, powerful masterful spirit that you are.
7 things you can do to reach the success you truly desire
need to work hard and make a commitment to your personal success plan, but
once you break the inertia you will find that small achievements will help
you gain momentum, and each step forward will attract more success.
Feelings and Attitudes
Are feelings and attitudes the same thing or different? Does one cause the other to happen? Which one has more power over how we respond? Does the person experiencing them have any choice in the matter? What if they are in conflict?
The Second Step To Overcoming The Barrier To Success
You've got to believe that what you're wanting to do is worth
doing and that it will accomplish what you want!
Success: No Intelligence Required
Being intelligent doesn't necessary imply
success, and likewise, success doesn't necessarily imply intelligence.
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