by Craig Lock
How to be a good communicator and how to make
the most of your relationships:
* be interested in other people - show
that you are by asking questions (but don't be insincere or hypocritical -
nice word). Not mundane comments about the weather. Say something
interesting like: "How's the back yard?" Be tactful. Don't say, "has
grannie 'popped off' yet?"
* be punctual - this shows you are
responsible, courteous and respectful of other's time.
* enjoy other
people's company and have FUN.
* tell the good news (without being a
"Bible-basher"). Be positive and other people will enjoy your
* be decisive - this shows confidence
* like yourself and
be positive about your life. Doing this will draw others towards
* keep your sense of humor. Hope you've still got one
after reading all this!
* tell people what you like about them without embarrassing
* be realistic in your goals, plans and desires
look at people, when you talk to them
* spend time alone with your
partner. Go on walks together. If you are not in a close relationship,
discuss what's happening in your life from time to time with a close friend.
If like me, you don't have one, join "rent-a-friend".
* give and take
in your relationships.
* smile often (not inanely).
people (for what they are).
* recognize that right and wrong are never
black and white. There are always three sides to any story: your side, the
other person's...and the TRUTH.
* try to put yourself in the other
person's shoes (only if they fit you). I like walking a mile in another man's
shoes. By the time he finds out, I'm a mile away and I've got his
* watch, wait and listen when developing relationships
assertive, but cautious
* don't gossip, backbite and backstab
personal integrity is crucial at ALL TIMES. Be true to your values and
and most importantly,
JUST BE YOURSELF.
Does Having Integrity Make Us Too Nice To Be Effective Leaders
Integrity is not just about being honest and upright; self-awareness and empathy are two key elements of the integrity equation.
If we are always seen to be trustworthy and honest, people are much more willing to impart information to us, believe what we say and to work with us towards our goals.
Time To Speak Up Part 1
Passivity is out; speaking up is no longer an optional skill. Successful people are both vocal and visible. Even if you've managed to avoid communication challenges to date, you will most likely not be able to cower in the back room much longer. Sitting quietly by the sidelines could put you at the top of the layoff list or place your business at risk.
Gone are the days where your value as an employee or vendor was linked to your loyalty and seniority. Today, companies are in a constant state of reorganization in response to the rapidly changing demands of the market. In a sense, you are functioning like your own personal corporation. And that means that you have the same need to differentiate yourself and build demand for your services among your target markets.